Soul Contracts go far beyond relationships between two people; everyone wants to learn about the Soul Contract in their relationships – with partners, parents or friends. Many believe that understanding the Soul Contract will provide a solution and make things better overall in relationships.
However, Soul Contracts we experience only appear within relationships – they don’t really affect them directly. Soul Contracts reflect your relationship to yourself! I discuss them extensively in my Soul Contracts book as they can often prevent us from finding happiness in marriage, finance, business, money love home and beyond. When an agreement exists between yourself and yourself that undermines success – whether marriage finance business money love home home and everywhere else! – when they’re involved we often become confused and disheartened.
If you find yourself stuck, a Soul Contract may be to blame.
Here are five common, yet hidden, Soul Contracts (for more comprehensive explanation, refer to Soul Contracts book.).
Have any of these situations resonated with you? Perhaps now is the time to take some steps (I will provide instructions below on how to do just that!).
Soul Contract of Martyrdom
Do you find it easier to say yes than to say no? Are you giving in when others need assistance but this doesn’t benefit yourself, feeling that by giving so much more you are making people happier? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions then it could leave you feeling exhausted, discouraged and devalued. If this sounds familiar then it could be your time for change – don’t just settle for doing more in exchange for less recognition from society!
Soul Contracts that include Martyrdom are often driven by our desire to avoid ever being perceived as selfish, so many of our decisions can often revolve around making sure we do not act selfishly. Unfortunately, once this lesson has been learned and understood it may manifest into less than desirable behaviour – although you will still be able to help people regardless.
Do You Make Excuses for Others, Even When They Treat You Poorly Are You Committed to Staying with People, No Matter Their Behavior (also Known As Loyalty Contracts)
Have You ever said to yourself “Yes, He May be Rude and Anger But That Is Family or That is my Boss”) when they Treat You Inappropriately (aka Soul Contract of Loyalty) A Soul Contract of Loyalty can arise when friends, loved ones, children or bosses continue to walk all over you despite or leaving because of fear that abandonment would result.
As soon as a Soul Contract of this sort is successfully fulfilled, your relationships will gradually shift towards those that give and receive with you. Even if you’ve struggled for years to leave a marriage or job behind, things start happening more naturally without effort — the “hold” that those people had over you is gone.
Have You Been Striving to Find Your Soul Mate Only to Result in Dis-ease, Sadness and Heartbreak? Have You Tried Blind Dates, Online Dating or Settling For Someone Who Isn’t the “It”? While many different contracts could be holding you back from finding love, the Soul Contract of Loneliness could be the hardest of all to break free from. When your soul becomes bound in this agreement even when with someone wonderful – you still feel alone, separate, unsupported. Master this contract and finally feel support and love already out there and easily attract more.
Soul Contract of Anxiety Do you find yourself feeling anxious, nervous or worried more frequently than normal? It could be an indicator that you have entered into a Soul Contract of Anxiety – designed to keep your guard up against life through hyper vigilance using anxiety as its tool. Do you anticipate the other shoe to drop? Do your finances seem secure but then rapidly disappear again when one worry ends only to quickly be replaced by another one? These experiences may appear natural but in many instances can be related to a Soul Contract of Anxiety created specifically to get through life using anxiety as its tool – designed as part of anxiety as part of life itself!
Why would anyone enter into such an emotional contract? Perhaps anxiety heightened your awareness, making you miss something hurtful that would normally go unseen? Filtering life through anxiety-ridden lenses is no fun for either yourself (or those around you). When you learn the lessons from such contracts, however, intuition will become easier to tap and hyper vigilance will decrease significantly. Need help managing Anxiety Soul Contracts? Check out my Heart Magnet tool here.
Soul Contract: Don’t Rock the Boat Are You Fearful of Marching to Your Own Drum and Breaking the Rules mes Do You Worry That Others May Witness Your Surfing this Site
This Soul Contract for protection can provide peace of mind if the information provided herein seems “out there”. This contract has become extremely popular. By remaining hidden and blending in, the risk of rejection, punishment or public recognition decreases significantly. While this might have seemed like a good plan initially, most adults now realize this type of contract makes building businesses, becoming experts, writing books or finding your voice harder – not to mention being part of true relationships!
